Life has a habit of pitching curveballs when we least expect them. One minute, life is pretty normal, and the next you’re pitched into a high-pressure situation. Quite often, we find ourselves rising to the occasion in ways we never expected ourselves capable of, but there’s always a price to pay for extreme stress, and you may only feel its effects days, weeks, or even months later. Before we look at coping tips, a word of advice: if you’re feeling overwhelmed, do reach out for help. Affordable online therapy allows you to do so at any time.
Wondering what is likely to upset an otherwise peaceful state of mind? These are the top stressful life events that happen to just about all of us at some time or another.
Losing a loved one is one of the most painful things that can happen to you, and the effects of your grief will be permanent. However, grief softens over time, making it easier to live with. At first, there’s a sense of unreality. Once our loss hits home, it’s normal to feel angry at the cruelty of fate. After a time, we realize that our anger is futile, and depression follows. Finally, we reach a stage of acceptance heavily tinged with sadness.
These stages of grief take varying periods of time depending on the individual. Spend time clearing clutter from your mind. Use your support system of close friends and family as a safety net. If you’re stuck in a cycle that never allows you to reach acceptance, you need help to break out of it. Get professional help.
When you said “I do,” you never expected your marriage to end in divorce. Apart from your own sorrow and anger at the way things have turned out, there are additional stressors. Child custody disputes, legal battles, dividing up possessions, and often, finding a new place to live are added to your woes. The grieving process we previously discussed comes into play – after all, you’re experiencing the death of a relationship.
Making time to relax, meditate, and calm your mind can help. You might try to avoid creating further conflicts by not involving mutual friends. In this case, therapy may be the only place where you can safely process your feelings and find a positive way forward.
Few people realize just how stressful moving house can be. It’s especially difficult if you’ll be moving long-distance. You’re not only leaving your old home behind but also your circle of friends. It’s a time when your whole family will be experiencing pressure, and your children, in particular, will need you to be strong. Limit stress through careful planning and preparation. Get to know your neighbors and your neighborhood as soon as you arrive at your new home, and look for clubs, societies, and activities that will place you in a position where you can meet like-minded people. Stay in touch with your old friends. Just having someone to talk to can be a huge help. If possible, take plenty of time off work so that you can get settled and recover from the mental, emotional, and physical exhaustion that goes with moving house.
None of us is proud of the “weakness” we feel during times of extreme stress. We might feel that we’re letting ourselves and others down. But the truth is that these top three stressors are serious problems for any person. If you’re combining multiple stress factors, for example, moving house and getting a new job or getting divorced and moving house, you may be shocked to find yourself near breaking point. Never be fooled into thinking that you’re “weird” or “weak.” Everyone has their limits, and you may be near yours. Take good care of yourself, and if you’re still struggling, don’t hesitate to get help from a psychologist.
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